December 12, 2023

A recent survey conducted by a remarriage information company in South Korea reveals insightful reasons behind the hesitancy to remarry among divorced individuals. The survey, which spanned from December 4 to 9, involved 516 divorced men and women across the nation.

According to the results, 32.2% of men expressed concerns about meeting a partner who might be overly dependent or exhibit ‘parasitic’ tendencies. On the other hand, 31.0% of women worried about the potential domestic burdens, such as caretaking and household responsibilities, that might come with a new marriage.

Other concerns for men included meeting a partner who is overly assertive about rights (29.5%), encountering fraudsters (18.2%), and the possibility of meeting uninteresting women (13.9%). Women shared similar worries, with 28.3% fearing fraudulent partners, 19.0% concerned about meeting dull men, and 14.7% apprehensive about partners who might be too assertive about their rights.

When considering a remarriage partner, the survey also highlighted different priorities between men and women compared to their first marriages. For men, 28.7% emphasized the importance of self-maintenance, followed by 26.0% who prioritized financial sensibility. In contrast, 34.1% of women focused on the potential partner’s preparedness for retirement, and 25.2% valued tolerance.

Both genders agreed on the importance of mutual respect, with 19.0% of men and 17.4% of women ranking it as their third consideration. Additionally, 18.2% of men prioritized their partner’s retirement readiness as the fourth criterion, while 15.1% of women considered self-maintenance.

In terms of what increases attractiveness during a remarriage matchmaking session, 28.7% of men were drawn to a bright demeanor, whereas 27.5% of women appreciated a partner with extensive general knowledge. Complimentary habits were also favored, with 24.7% of men and 25.3% of women valuing this trait.

Other attractive qualities included a humble attitude (22.1% of men) and extensive knowledge (16.7% of men), while women also favored a bright expression (21.3%) and quick wit (17.4%).

As you might know, there are many divorced families in Korea. Many divorced individuals agree on the need for remarriage but often hesitate to make a commitment. Men worry about encountering opportunistic women, while women fear the added responsibilities of caregiving and managing new family dynamics.